Communication styles… Needy-Dependent…You know one??
is he communicating in a "needy/dependent" style?
You are searching for the “ideal” communication? There is none! Sorry!
If you are thinking about your own style you should consider that you need to think about the “context of the situation” and “personality of the involved parties”. Friedemann Schulz von Thun, a German psychologist, differs 8 styles of communication and interaction. In the next days I want to show you in my blog the different types and please, don’t try to force yourself in one of the patterns. Nobody is fitting in only one of the 8 styles 
An interesting fact is, that every style has strengths and weaknesses but if you can figure out one as your major style you can get an idea of the direction for your personal development in communication. Anyway, look at the styles with a bit of humor! I am absolutely sure you will identify one of your friends, co-workers, chiefs, mates etc.
Today we start with
The “needy/dependent” style
The aim of this style is to get help and support. To get this, he or her pretend tob e weak, helpless and nonviable. He or her gives the counterpart the feeling to be strong and competent!
If you see the helplessness and weakness which the needy/dependent demonstrate, it is perhaps surprising how powerful his emotional influence can be. It is not easy to ignore it without appearing to be heartless and selfish. Suddenly you are on his “hook” and in the middle of something. You are in charge!
Be aware, the magical system of the dependency-needy style is a mutual seduction system! Maybe you like what he offers you?
The strength in it is the ability to ask for help and support. The development is to ask for help and support only if there is a reason! A strength of the needy/dependent style is to ask others for help and to be able to accept their help.
As a development direction Schulz von Thun called the needy/dependent style autonomy and responsibility. Next, they should learn to ask specifically for help, rather than presenting themselves as basically helpless.
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